Hello my dear readers, it’s been a while! Let me share with you something about personal growth in this post.
If you’ve read about my recent Instagram post about sunflowers blooming, you’re in the right post. Dark times call for reflections, and this is what I’m thankful about when we encounter situations in our lives where we are demotivated, uninspired, and such. Of course, we don’t want that often, but it does exist.
When someone asks me for advice on how they can overcome such dark times, I would respond based on experience (And when I do, I definitely feel what the person feels! You know, been there.) As we know, like the normal day and night cycle, dark times really exist. That’s part of your personal growth and self-discovery journey. Being aware of its existence is embracing that it’s part of you and your life.
Now let’s go to the flowers. Do you know why flowers don’t bloom?
Here are some reasons: (I posted this on my Instagram post)
- There is lack of sunlight.
- They’re simply too young to bloom.
- The environment they’re in is not suited for them.
- There is an imbalance in nutrients.
- They’re faced with extremes in temperature.
Now, what if you are the flower?
Have you asked yourself lately why you are not blooming to become your better self?
Let’s try to compare flowers and YOU.
Why are you not growing, here are some reasons:
There is lack of sunlight.
Sometimes, we face our dark moments, as I’ve mentioned earlier, and that’s perfectly normal. However, these dark moments of ours must be utilized for our personal growth and make it a way to look for a light to keep on growing, or just even surviving. When you lack the inspiration, try to find it, little by little. Others can help you find the light, but you will choose if you’re going to that direction or not. Like flowers, there are people around who can put you in the sunlight you need. You can decide if you’re going to stand there fully and embrace the warmth of that “sun”, or let it burn you and go back to your darkest corners. If you get what I mean, you know.
They’re simply too young to bloom.
You have to enjoy every phase in your life. When we haven’t fulfilled a phase on our lives, say for example, childhood, we sometimes tend to be fixated on it. Try not to rush things and value every phase of your life. You live as a teenager once, you live as a parent once. Time flows quickly and you are on another journey again. Forcing yourself can give you benefits, but can it make you fulfilled? Remember that there are things that are meant to be taken little by little, and there are also things that you can rush doing. Try to categorize which is which.
The environment they’re in is not suited for them.
Do not push yourself in places you can’t grow. It might sound easy for me to say, but it takes some courage to look for environments that could help you become a better person. Environment doesn’t just mean the place you’re in, but it also means the people around you. Cut off toxic people. Filter people who are your real friends, who are just acquaintances, and such. If places around you remind you of bad memories, remove yourself from it, or little by little, associate it with new, better memories. For example, I used to avoid going to a certain place because it reminds me of a person who hurt me. What I did is I try to go there again, and built a different memory, so that it can be replaced. Now every time I go to that place, the most recent ones is the one I remember.
There is an imbalance in nutrients.
I don’t have to explain much of this, but your soul is in a body that needs nourishment. Feed it. I am not a perfect person who always eat something healthy, but, I also learned that your body can talk to you. Your cravings actually define the habits you instilled on your body. (Like recently, me, eating expensive food…) Have a good working relationship with your physical self. It doesn’t need to be strict, but it should be something that makes you feel good and healthy as a whole. Personal growth does not just entail the soul, but it also needs growth to the ones that holds it.
They’re faced with extremes in temperature.
High intensities could definitely test us in different ways, but too much of it can burn us out. People lose their inspiration over things they’re passionate about simply because expectations, pressure, and such, may it be external or internal take a toll on them. Look for that extreme that you can realistically be consistent with and have a sense of balance. Remember that job interview you took years ago and how enthusiastic you are telling the recruiter that you can work under pressure. Now try to reflect if that’s really the pressure that can make you grow. Or, imagine those moments that you’re planning that business of your dreams. Now when it’s execution time, do you still feel the same fire with how you felt it before? With these examples, you might not have the same passion and excitement as what you had before, but if you love something, you’ll commit to it, and realistically be consistent with it. Or you know, just think of your significant other and see how you pursue that person regardless of whatever bright and dark times you have. Try to do it with yourself. Be patient with you.
Here’s a photo of me in extreme temperatures! Well if you can’t leave it, enjoy it! (Plus, who would want to leave the snow?)
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And let me ask you, can you relate to the flower?
Because I do, lots of times.
And remember that every flower is different and beautiful in their own ways.
It might be others time to bloom, and yours will come soon.
Love your personal growth and self-discovery journey.
Sending you lots of love,